I can’t think of anyone who likes rejection. Most of us avoid it all cost. If we are rejected, we often commit to never get into the situation that caused it in the first place.

But rejection isn’t always a bad thing. Rejection means that we’re trying. It means that we’re making ourselves vulnerable. It means that we are taking risks.

A few weeks ago I received my first rejection letter from a literary agent. While I must admit it stung a little, within about 30 seconds of reading it, I found myself rejoicing over it.

I’ve been anticipating the day I would receive my first rejection letter. It may sound crazy, but it’s true.

I’ve been so scared of rejection. So much that I’ve let it paralyze me and keep me from writing and keep me from dreaming. The fear has kept me from living my dream of becoming a published author. So what do I do? Nothing. And nothing gets me in the same place fear does. No where.

To me a rejection letter says I’m trying. I’m putting myself out there. I’m taking a risk.

The most important thing that I found was that the rejection letter wasn’t as bad as I had anticipated. It was polite, respectful, and courteous. I’ve heard stories about some bad ones, some means ones even, and I think  I expected the same kind of ridicule. Come on, if Dr. Seus and The Diary of Anne Frank received rejection letters, I don’t stand a chance right? Maybe, maybe not.

I’ve been scared to face rejection because I worried that it would steal my dream. I was afraid it would cause me to give up and cease writing. But, it hasn’t. In fact, its fueled me to continue pursuing more, and to be more persistent in the process.

Now I finally feel like a real writer, and I have the rejection letter to prove it.

Have you experienced rejection? Did it fuel you or stop you?