Growing up, my family did not participate in Halloween. Aside from costume parties and Fall festivals at our church, we pretty much laid low on Halloween night- literally.
Is it wrong for Christians to participate in Halloween? Some believe it is, some don’t.
Halloween doesn’t become an issue until you have kids of your own. The first time I went trick-or-treating I was 28 years old and my daughters were 2 and 10 months. We had just moved to California to start South Bay Church, and saw it as a great opportunity to connect with our neighbors.
We’ve continued to participate ever since.
About a month ago Lily came home from school telling me all about what the other kids were going to be for Halloween. I followed it up with, “What do you want to be?”. “A ghost!”, she exclaimed. “Really.”, I responded curiously, “Why?”. “Because I want to scare people!”, she answered. “All I need is a bed sheet!”
Oh boy, I thought to myself. Didn’t see this one coming. Not at all.
Until now Princesses were all she has dressed up as for Halloween.
Trick-or-Treating is one thing, but dressing up in a scary costume is another.
So, I had a few choices to make.
a. tell her she can’t
b. talk her out of it.
c. let her.
I didn’t feel good about telling her she couldn’t. I wanted it to be her decision, not mine (it wasn’t like she was wanting be Satan).
So, I did the next best thing.
I tried to talk her out of it via manipulation. I thought of every round-about way I could to talk her out of it and relating anything that came up in conversation. I even took her to Target and tried to get her interested in something else, and when that didn’t work…
I told Filipe it was his job to talk her out of it. (He didn’t really care.)
Nope, she wouldn’t budge.
Then I realized this was clearly MY issue- not hers.
I was more concerned about what people would think of her (& us!).
And I have to admit the thought, Is it okay for a pastor’s daughter to dress up as a ghost?, did cross my mind once or twice.
Lily is unaware about things that are truly scary (aside from the devil himself whom she is very scared of), and I didn’t want to scare her out of being a ghost by opening her mind up to more than necessary.
So, we let her be a ghost.
And she had a blast.
And got lots of candy!
Was it wise/unwise?
I’ll let you know in about 10 years.
What did you do for Halloween?!?!