The month of October was a travel month for Filipe and I. We went to Charleston, SC for a wedding a couple weeks ago, and we went to New York City for a church coaching network that Filipe has been involved in over the last 6 months.
Not only did we take 2 trips together, we went without our girls. Though we missed them terribly, it was so good for Filipe and I to have that time together- especially with another baby coming in about 12 weeks!!!
We were married for 3 years before our first daughter was born, so we had some “just the 2 of us” time. Having a family has been a huge blessing and one of the greatest joys in life, but it definitely changes your marriage relationship. You have the responsibility to train your children (which takes energy & time!) , deep conversations become interrupted by everything imaginable, and you have less time to just be together. Not a bad thing, just different.
We both stongly believe that the best thing we can give to our children is a healthy marriage. We have had to be proactive about how we spend our time to do this. We have a date night on a weekly basis, and unless our schedule has a big conflict, we are pretty good about sticking to it. Our children learn about life primarily from us- especially how they relate with people. If we don’t have a loving relationship with each other- how are they going to treat others? Having time away together (without them!) shows them how important we are to each other. There may be inconveniences and it’s not always easy with schedules, but I think it is worth it- for them and for us.