Physical Oneness & Intimacy

Physical intimacy is probably the easiest area of oneness to understand, yet is often the cause of much tension, frustration, and disappointment among married couples. The desires and longings we once had faded somewhere between the busyness of work and the demands of family. We forget to cultivate romance; we don’t make time for intimacy. We become disappointed with our spouse or with ourselves for feeling this way. It’s difficult to admit when we’re struggling in this area. When we understand oneness as multi-faceted, we can learn how to resolve the tension in the area of…

Relational Oneness & Enjoying Each Other

Today I’m continuing the “Oneness Experience” over at Applegate Summers. If you missed the first two, go check them out HERE and HERE. Most of us would agree that it’s not the amount of friends we have but the depth of our friendships that satisfies the longing we have for connection. Yet so often we get caught up in the many. We may have 400 “friends” on Facebook or a thousand followers on Twitter, but I dare not call all of them true friends. In a culture driven by social media it’s even more important…

Fall Comforts

It’s no secret that fall is not at the top of my “favorite seasons” list, but there are many things I do enjoy about it. I love an excuse to have a fire in the fireplace. I like waking up to crisp, cool mornings. And I love fall foods. Pumpkin and apple flavors, soups and chili’s, they are all just wonderful. A couple weeks ago Filipe and I were driving back from a little getaway in Monterey and stopped at a fruit/veggie stand on the side of the road. I filled bags of artichokes and…

Emotional Oneness

I’m continuing the oneness discussion over at Applegate Summers today…(thanks Jenn for allowing me to take over your blog on Mondays). If you missed last weeks post on what the “Oneness Experience” is about, you can read all about it here. Oneness in marriage is a pretty incredible thing. Paul referred to it as “a mystery” in Ephesians 5. To fully grasp or understand it all is difficult, but when we begin to evaluate the different areas of our marriage, it helps us to see how we are doing. Maybe this is why this oneness concept was…

Hour Seven. Oneness.

I’m thrilled to partner with my dear friend, Jenn, over at Applegate Summers today as she participates in 31 days led by The Nester. Filipe and I met Jenn, and her husband Kevin, in college and cherish any chance we get to spend time with them- they are some of the most encouraging and uplifting people to be around. Jenn is posting every day for 31 days about how to love your husband. I love her heart to do this and know it will bless you so. You’re doing awesome Jenn!! I love it when my husband…

Adoption Update: Dossier Sent!

What’s Happening: I apologize for the lack of updates lately. But there’s not been much to say. Over the last six weeks, our paperwork has been en route to different state offices across the country, the U.S. State Department, and two different Brazilian Consulates here in the U.S. It felt like a miracle to get them all signed, stamped, and returned. Saturday I received our final document. Sunday afternoon I stood at the copy machine for over an hour copying all of our paperwork. Yesterday I mailed it off to our agency. Our dossier is…

We Need Each Other

This past Sunday at South Bay Church I had a great conversation with a first-time guest. He started by sharing how much he enjoyed the service and was impacted by his entire experience that morning. I just stood there listening as he began to open up and share why he decided to come that day. After all, it was a Yelp search that directed him to South Bay and he was looking for help. This man was led to Christ several years ago by another local pastor who discipled him and trained him in ministry….

The Cost of Risk

The thing about risk is that there is a cost. I don’t think its possible to take a risk and find more comfort/security…and least not immediately. They just don’t go together. And that’s where we get hung up. We see an opportunity- maybe it’s job-related or ministry-related. We believe in it and we’re passionate about it. But we want certainty. We want our lifestyle to stay the same, we want our relationships to stay the same, we want our bank accounts to stay the same, we want ______________ to stay the same. But, if we’re…