Asking the Question: Should I Adopt or Foster?

While Filipe and I are on sabbatical I’m taking a trip down memory lane and going through the archives. Crazy thing is you find things you never remember writing. I wrote this in 2010, three years before we started our adoption process and four years before bringing our boys home. It’s cool to look back and remember that adoption was part of our story all along. Could adoption or foster care be a part of your story too? Problems. Everywhere you turn they are staring us in the face. People are hurting, broken, and lonely. Children are suffering, orphaned,…

5 Ways to Get Through Hard Days

While Filipe and I are on sabbatical I’m revisiting the archives (and adding a little present day commentary along the way). This week we are spending some time enjoying our own city together- ya know the things you don’t do when life is going, going, going. I wrote this post in 2015, five months after we brought our two boys home from Brazil. I’m so glad I didn’t know then how hard this road would be. I don’t think my heart could have handled it. As much as we want to know what’s ahead for…

Adoption Lessons: The Affects of a Broken Foundation

When it comes to the subject of adoption, I struggle for words. It’s one of the most defining parts of my life thus far yet causes more writer’s block than anything other subject. During the paper part of the adoption process it wasn’t hard. We were on the front side of reality. The side where you imagine and wonder, the side where you idealize how you will handle every hard scenario. And it’s not even like you expect it to be easy, you know better. But the way you expect to respond is likely far different from reality….

You Are What They Need

In my last post, I shared a broad overview of our one year adoption milestone. That first year is a doozy- not because of the child, per se, but anytime you grow or add to your family, there’s changes and adjustments that need to be made. And even in the best, most ideal circumstances, change brings new challenges and a new way of doing things. This may mean a new morning routine, a new mealtime routine, a new school routine, or a new bedtime routine. Because we are creatures of habit (and the older we get,…