Why We Don’t Allow Our Kids to Say “I Know”

While Filipe and I are on sabbatical I’m revisiting the archives and adding a little present day commentary along the way. This week our kids are heading to Grandma’s house while Filipe and I fly to Rome, Italy. We are so thrilled.  I first posted this in 2010 and it’s something we still talk about as a family today.  A couple of weeks ago my two girls were playing together in the corner of the living room. I was sitting nearby and heard Lily say, “Cailyn, Daddy says we can’t say that.” Not hearing what…

5 Ways to Get Through Hard Days

While Filipe and I are on sabbatical I’m revisiting the archives (and adding a little present day commentary along the way). This week we are spending some time enjoying our own city together- ya know the things you don’t do when life is going, going, going. I wrote this post in 2015, five months after we brought our two boys home from Brazil. I’m so glad I didn’t know then how hard this road would be. I don’t think my heart could have handled it. As much as we want to know what’s ahead for…

Embracing Tension

There’s tension all around. As a mom I live in the tension of needing to hover over my kids one minute to taking a hands-off approach the next. When it comes to ministry and writing, I struggle to stay comfortable and confident with what I’m good at and taking risks with something new. I crave comfort and thrill-seeking adventure. I long for both productivity and rest, discipline and flexibility. Life tells us to choose. Have you ever longed for an hour or two alone only to feel guilty and unable to enjoy it once you get it? Or…

Adoption Lessons: The Affects of a Broken Foundation

When it comes to the subject of adoption, I struggle for words. It’s one of the most defining parts of my life thus far yet causes more writer’s block than anything other subject. During the paper part of the adoption process it wasn’t hard. We were on the front side of reality. The side where you imagine and wonder, the side where you idealize how you will handle every hard scenario. And it’s not even like you expect it to be easy, you know better. But the way you expect to respond is likely far different from reality….