I’ll be honest, life is hard. For the last 4-6 weeks (I’m losing count) we’ve been in a tough season with our family transition. It’s nothing we didn’t expect, just our current reality.
Adoption is beautiful, but adoption is messy. On both sides.
For an adopted child, getting a new family doesn’t erase the pain and loss they experienced. It doesn’t erase the years of neglect and abandonment they felt. Even when they don’t understand their own feelings yet.
We can’t undo what’s been done, but we can help them heal. We can’t fix their past, but we can help them thrive in their future- their scars a part of their new story.
My hope, my goal as a mom is to do two things: love my kids the best I can and point them to Jesus.
In the meantime, how do I get through the day? Here’s a few practical things I’m currently doing to make it and thrive throughout this season.
1. Small, measurable goals.
I signed up to run a half marathon last summer before we went to Brazil knowing I needed something to look ahead to. The half marathon is at Disneyland on Mothers Day and will mark 6 months having the boys in our family. When days are tough I tell myself, “It hasn’t even been six months!”.
2. Early Bedtime
My kids go to bed early. Like when the sun is still out early. And I don’t feel bad in the least. Knowing that I can mentally check-out around 7:30 makes the days easier to manage. They get a full nights sleep, I get some down time, and no matter what happened that day, tomorrow we can start fresh.
I used to watch a lot more serious TV- cop shows, the investigative type, etc. Now, I can’t handle them as much. I need to laugh, so I find things to laugh about. Jimmy Fallon is a regular on our TV. In fact, I’m watching him now as I type. Thank you notes is on. My favorite!
4. Red Wine
Just a little Merlot or Pinot Noir. Oh yeah, and I hear it’s like working out. Need I say more?
5. Give Grace
The most important person for me to show grace to right now is myself. I could do a lot of things better- I could type out a full page list. But I’m doing my best and that’s enough right now.
I spend most of my day praying for wisdom, asking God for strength. So much about what I’m doing doesn’t come natural, I’m completely out of my comfort zone. But as uncomfortable it is, it’s so good and it will be worth it.